I know, we're a day early. But since many of you are already eating the candy, and I thought I could use one more pumpkin-and-costume graphic, with puppies, we're posting a day early. This week I had a lovely time with connections and colleagues from the Toronto Product Management Association, where I was sharing a facilitator's-eye view of meetings and how to make them work for you. My first rule: treat your colleagues like you would treat your customers - give them and their ideas the same level of respect and consideration. No one likes meetings, for sure, but there are some key things that make them run more smoothly:
*The Ivory Taboo Tower is a "secret parking lot" out of the room, or on a discreet wall, where people can note topics that are taboo to talk about, and yet are having an impact on getting things done, agreeing, or moving forward.
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If you've ever tried to create something or solve a problem as part of a high-functioning team, you know that conflict is practically unavoidable. Add a looming deadline, a commitment to an important client, or a boss who just won't take no for an answer, and there's a lot of pressure to come up with a solution.
There are a lot of different ways to solve conflict - the Thomas-Killman Conflict Mode breaks it down into five key methods. Their model includes a matrix where one axis is assertiveness, and the other is cooperativeness. The four quadrants break down as follows:
What about compromising? Isn't that the best approach? Maybe not. And here's why.
Compromising sounds okay, for sure. It's fair, right? Well, it's fair - in both the good, and the bad sense of the word. It's a little like the difference between equity and equality. Compromise may seem like an acceptable solution, but often it is the solution that gives everyone exactly the same amount of sway, but ultimately provides a weak solution that leaves everyone disappointed.
So how do you Collaborate? Very carefully. It takes time. (Remember that point at the top about maybe there's a looming deadline?) Earlier models for conflict resolution also talked about the axes being people-driven, or time-driven. And while there's no right answer, suspending the time deadline does increase the likelihood of collaboration. Collaboration is arriving at a co-created solution, where everyone feels heard, their ideas are validated, and then, if they must back off their position, they feel that it was at least given careful consideration by the other members of the team.
If time really is of the essence, then the solution may not be to leave it up to consensus decision-making. You may have to rely on a decider, and then return to the collaboration table to discuss less time-sensitive issues. (This is why design sprints usually appoint a decider - someone who has the final say, if push comes to shove).
So the next time you have a group decision to make, if you know there will be lots of strong wills in the room, leave enough time for collaboration. If there isn't enough time, appoint someone to decide, and move on. In situations of critical importance, sometimes every kid doesn't get a valentine.
I'm Megann Willson and I'm one of the Partners at PANOPTIKA. We work with our clients to help them see everything they need to make better decisions - including facilitating collaborative decision-making by teams, leading sprints, and helping them decide which framework best suits the kind of decisions they need to make. If you and your team need help doing that, send us an email, and let's set up a free call. Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, or LinkedIn, and for more news you can use to help you or your team to ask more questions in ways that will let them make better decisions, click the handy button, below.
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